What is with these kids today? I just found out my nephew physically moved my sister-in-law out of the way when she was blocking him from entering a room the other day. I couldn't believe it. I insisted she let him come live with me for a few months and she refused. When I was talking to her, she said the kids he goes to school with make him look like and angel! What! I told her to get him the hell out of that school, no matter what she has to do. I can not imagine a child physically moving a parent out of the way. He didn't attack her, but she knows some parents who have been attacked.

Let me tell you, that would not have happened in the Barbarian's culture, and it shouldn't in ours! To much TV and video games are making this children insane. Now before you say, 'hold on Everte, you can't blame the TV for this' you should know I don't.

I Blame The Parents! If you have a child that is having these kinds of problems it is you fault. Sorry if you don't like to hear it, but kids are not responsible for their actions. Please don't email me with all your reasons that your situation is different, it's not.

The good news is that, once you realize this, and take 100% responsibility, you can change it. You have total control over your child's life. Disagree do ya? Well that is your child's problem!

If you are starting out with young children, great, you can do it right and avoid lots of problems.

Here are some hints, for older children or younger:

1. Children should have chores. This is not a matter of learning responsibility, although that is a nice side effect. It is a matter of helping the child to feel useful and make them feel like they contribute to the family.

2. What you say goes. End of thought, period, no excuses or negotiations, unless you want to allow them. I will occasionally give into my daughter when she asks for something, but usually what I say the first time goes, no bartering, nothing. On the occasion I do change my mind she understands that she still had to ask for permission and that she got a treat. BTW, I have used the technique with older children that were in my charge, and once they learned the rules it worked brilliantly.

3. Your children must understand that you are stronger and more determined than they are. Many people do not believe in corporal punishment, and that is fine. No need to spank children if you don't want to, but you must establish that, if push comes to shove they will lose. At the end of the day, if they think they will win a physical confrontation, they feel like they are the person in control of the relationship. The problem is that they are the one with little responsibility and less experience. You are the one who's ass is on the line. You must be the superior in the relationship, and that means that your child must feel like they will not win if they attack you.

OK, there are a few pieces of advice regarding the hottest subject we touch on. No parent likes to hear that their children's short coming or problems are the parent's fault. Unless you accept this fact, and work from that point the problems will likely not improve.

Forget the experts who tell you try and make you feel better.

This is not about your feelings, it is about your children's well being.

Is this part of the book “The barbarians Guide to Success”? You betcha Will it help you? You betcha Is your ego too big to do what's best for your children? You gotta answer that.

And for those of you who have well behaved, honest, trustworthy children who have a good sense of self and a good self image, Congrats! We need more like you.

With that I will say:

Get the Barbarian Mind Set and keep it. Stay trú to yourself and your family, the rest will take care of itself.

Welga!

Everte Farnell is a author and speaker and professional coach. In May of 2003 Everte was a divorced broke single father. Two and a half years later Everte is a happily married father of two. The company he and his wife worked to build supplies his family with a six figure income, and his children are happy healthy and well adjusted. He lives a life that many dream of. It is the life that he dreamed of in May of 2003.

In October of 2005 he released his book "The Barbarian's Guide to Success" and is dedicated to helping other realize their dreams. He is a straight forward, politically incorrect, figure and makes very little time for detractors. He often says "So many 'coaches' have made their money by coaching. I do everything I coach. It is important that people know that I have faced or do face the same challenges they face. Life is an integrated process. Your professional life must support your personal and family life and vice versa, otherwise you will never find true success." Everte Can be reached at his web page http://www.successfulBarbarian.com

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