Naomi, mother of 5-year old fraternal sons Zachary and Samuel, wrote and asked for advice on how to work more smoothly with her children. She then read PEACEFUL PARENTING® and shared the following success story:

“My boys are great kids. But our home use to have quite a bit of twin conflict followed by twin love. It seemed as the boys were at one extreme or another. Following them, my husband and I felt as though we too were at one extreme or another. Reading and applying Peaceful Parenting® has made all the difference.

“I now realize that the boys are in a competitive phase in their lives. Their needs for power and freedom are driving their behaviors most strongly. Each boy had been trying to follow his competitive drive through, over and on his brother.

“As you suggested in your book and email to me, we have now changed some procedures in our home. Rather than insist that the boys share toys, we have designated ‘Zach’s toys’ and ‘Sam’s toys.’ They still have some toys that they share, but each has a greater sense of ownership and power over his own toys.

“Rather than insist that they work together to accomplish their household chores, we have given each child his own chore to complete himself. We all know that Sam’s job is to set the table; Zach’s job is to feed the dog. Each boy knows he has his own job.

“Finally we have begun to work together on a plan for how to resolve conflicts as they arise. Although we have yet to find the solution, we are all talking and trying to work this out together, just as PEACEFUL PARENTING® suggests. Of course part of the problem is that each boy wants to ‘win.’ Each insists that his solution is the best solution. We haven’t found the compromise yet, but we are talking and trying to work this out together.

“The overall results of all of these changes are that each boy now feels as though he has more power and freedom. There is less arguing and bickering between the boys now. More twin love is prevailing. Thank you Peaceful Parenting®!”

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Nancy S. Buck, Ph.D. established Peaceful Parenting, Inc. in 2000 to bring her knowledge and experience with effective parenting to the greatest number of parents and other caretakers of children. She developed the Peaceful Parenting® program from her 25 years of experience as a developmental psychologist, trainer and educator with The William Glasser Institute and as the mother of twin sons. Her genuine, warm and authentic teaching style is clear and concise, helping learners move from the theoretical to real life situations.

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