Teen dating can seem like a game that no one ever wins. The truth is, very few people actually do. There are tons of explanations for how hard it can be, but one of the biggest reasons is confusion. There are two basic types of relationship: affection-based and convenience-based. Neither is better, but it’s important to know which one you want before going looking for the right guy, or else you’ll just end up with a bunch of people you never really wanted to be with in the first place.

People who want affection-based relationships usually want someone to be a soul mate, and want to know everything about that person… the good and the bad. The type of love that exists after the excitement wears off is a lot like the love between a mother and child, or between close brothers or sisters.

People who want convenience-based relationships usually look for a person who can fulfill their needs at the present time. These people don’t necessarily want a long-term relationship, they want someone compatible, and who has similar interests. For example, you might want an outgoing guy who isn’t afraid to dance because you like clubbing.

If you’re affection-based, read these tips:

• Even if you feel a very deep connection, you don’t have to spill your heart out on the first date.

• Don’t be afraid to stray away from your usual hang-out to meet new people. Some of the best catches are the hardest to find.

• Always, always be yourself. Never lie or hide from who you are because you are scared of what he might think. Those who truly love you will love you anyway.

• Ask him questions, and always take interest. Also, ask questions that will let you know what kind of guy he is so you don’t get stuck with someone you don’t even like.

• Don’t be afraid to open up.

• Always smile. And if he doesn’t kiss you at the end of the date, kiss him!

• Dress in a way that reflects who you are [Get fashion advice at toobs.ca]

If you’re convenience-based, read these tips:

• If you’re looking for someone with common interests, meet him somewhere you like being, like at a club or the movies.

• Never be afraid to approach a guy. He’ll probably be more attracted to you if you make the first move, just don’t come on too strong… he has to do some work too.

• Always smile. Laugh, but remember not to sound too much like a dumb blonde.

• Make-up is good, but don’t try to look like you should be on a street corner at 2am.

• Wearing you hair down is hotter than hair up.

• Make sure he has to chase you down. No guy wants what he can easily have. Play a little “hard-to-get,” it’s worth it.

• Don’t ask for his phone number. If he likes you, and knows you like him, he’ll find you.

• Wear seductive colors. Reds, blacks, and whites are best [Get fashion advice at toobs.ca]

If you have stories or more tips you’d like to share, e-mail order@toobs.ca We’d love to hear from you.

This article was written by the dating and fashion team at Toobs.

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