This week I want to talk about a very negative and destructive thought pattern that can create havoc in your pursuit of single women. What is it? It's self-pity and feeling sorry for yourself when you are lonely and down-in-the-dumps because you have nobody to love.

Self-pity can become a habit just like a drug habit. When taking drugs your body can develop a tolerance to them and require larger and larger doses to get the same effect from the drug. And, so it is with self-pity. The more you allow your mind to become consumed with self-pity, the more it will require. Then you fall into the habit of being totally consumed by self-pity. It becomes a vicious cycle.

At this point, you're so down on yourself and depressed that your love life is in the pits, you feel hopeless, and you are paralyzed from taking the action you need to take to get out of your rut and start meeting and dating single women again.

This situation is only temporary and is never hopeless. There is a cure and the cure lies within you. If you will just think things out to analyze your situation and how you got into your self-pitying rut, I'm sure you will discover that the problems that made you wallow in your own self-pity were mainly created by you. This being said, it's up to you to not become a victim of self-pity.

When you feel yourself wanting to feel sorry for yourself because your love life is not working out like you want it to be, fight off this feeling with all your might and will power. Do not allow it to take over your mind and fill it with negative and unhappy thoughts.

Instead, tell yourself everything is going to work out ok. It won't be long until I find someone special. I just have to be patient and take action every time I see an opportunity to meet a woman. I like this slogan that I use to give me motivation and inspiration: "If it's going to be, it's up to me!"

This article written by Don Diebel (Americas #1 Singles Expert). If you would like more free dating tips on how to successfully meet, date, attract, and become intimate with women, please visit his website at: http://www.getgirls.com.

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