This article might seem shocking, but it’s all true. The other night I had dinner with my husband and two of his single male friends (Ben and Jack) who launched into a tirade about dating today. These good-looking, 40 something, self-employed bachelors are frustrated with trying to find a decent woman. I couldn’t believe it.

The Problem?
Ben and Jack think women today act desperate. Of course I asked for specifics – what does desperate look like? Turns out it boils down to two very basic and rather traditional concepts:
1)Men don’t want women to chase them
2)Men don’t like when “the chase” is too easy

Dating is an Ancient Mating Ritual
What? How can this be in an age of equality between the sexes? It’s really very simple – dating harkens back to ancient mating rituals that have not gone away, nor been modified as much as women would hope.

Dating Guidleines from the "Fellas"
According to Ben, Jack and others, here are some guidelines that women might want to follow if they want to be perceived as “quality prospects” when first meeting a man:

1)With online dating, don’t initiate a flood of emails. Some women email multiple times a day which makes women appear demanding or needy. Frequent contact can cause him to feel crowded. Initially, let men set the pace.

2)Don’t Call to Say Hi, Check in, or Discover Why He hasn’t Called. This is seen as pushy and desperate. If you don’t like the slow pace, perhaps the guy isn’t the right one for you. If you feel compelled to call when you haven’t heard from a date, you get only one light-hearted and friendly call. That’s it. Either he’ll pick up the ball or not, so let it go.

3)As horrible as this old saying is, “There’s no reason to buy the cow if the milk is free.” The

The Chase is Still On
Most men still prefer to pursue women during the initial phase of dating. They want to chase and win you over, rather than feel like you’re a push over. It’s not about playing really hard to get. It is about not being too easy. It’s human nature to want what isn’t readily available.

If you think about it, women feel the same way. My female clients complain all the time about men who are “too nice,” clingy, or come on too strong. It’s the flip side of the same coin so to speak.

My conclusion about Ben and Jack’s perspective on dating is this: The Dating Game is still in play. You can deny it or fight against it. But that’s doesn’t change the hard, cold facts.

You’re Best Bet is to Play by the Rules.
Instead of chasing someone and risking the appearance of desperation, use your feminine charm to draw a man in. Let him know why you’re a great catch.

Demonstrate your delightful character by being fun to be with and looking your best. Flirt with him, flatter and praise him, and thank him. And let him lead. It may be “old school” but there’s no arguing with what has worked well for eons and still works today.

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