For most people, their wedding day is one of the most wonderful AND most stressful days of their life. Keep your sense of humor! Here is how a groom can help the bride before, during and after the wedding day:

1. Keep your cool and take things lightly. A sense of humor is not telling jokes but rather a way of looking at life. When you cultivate a great sense of humor you begin to see different connections. Remember that there is always another way of looking at any situation. Poking fun at yourself is a great way to break the tension when people are getting stressed.

2. If you're going to be making remarks at the reception, plan on saying something humorous. If you're having a hard time planning something funny to say, find a friend with a great sense of humor. Sit down with that person in advance and brainstorm a few ideas. A humorous story or embarrassing moment is often a candidate for getting good laughs.

3. Although food and music are at the top of the list for receptions and rehearsal dinners, don't forget to include something fun. For example a strolling magician can keep guests in good spirits while you wrap up those important photos.

4. For bridesmaid and groomsman gifts, how about a gag gift. If you want to give them a serious memento, consider giving them two gifts; one to lighten the day and one for memories.

5. For your Thank You card to acknowledge gifts and attendees, consider a photo (holiday-type) greeting card. Feature a funny photo from your honeymoon. Half the fun will be thinking of cute photo opportunities. It will be a card people will want to save.

Copyright 2005 by John Kinde.

John Kinde is a humor specialist who has been in the training and speaking business for over 30 years specializing in teambuilding, customer service and stress management. Special reports available: Show Me The Funny -- Tips for Adding Humor to Your Presentations and When They Don't Laugh -- What To Do When the Laughter Doesn’t Come. Humor Power Tips newsletter and articles are available at http://www.HumorPower.com

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