You hear the term personal responsibility thrown around a lot. What does it mean and how does it apply to you in regards to yourself and your relationships? I have listed the following I feel addresses these questions.

Personal Responsibility as an “I”

• Being honest with yourself, recognizing and dealing with any unfinished emotional business from childhood so it will not affect your life today.

• Identifying your fears, developing the skills to control your mind and having a positive attitude toward yourself and life.

• Be conscious and intentional of the choices you make, seek out advice from people you trust and follow your inner voice.

• When you take actions, make sure it is in accordance with your values and beliefs. If your body is uncomfortable with a decision or action, reevaluate.

• Always be honest with yourself and others. Take care of the people you love and take care of yourself by being healthy in mind, body and spirit.

Personal Responsibility as a “TO”

• Know what you want to be and have before embarking on your journey to find your life partner. If we do not know what we want, how can we seek it.

• Make a plan to become conscious of the kind of partner that we will make you happy. Develop a map and go find your treasure.

• Be the Chooser! Do not accept mediocrity just because you have a fear. Go and find what you deserve and do not settle for less.

• Always have emotional integrity. Do not lie, manipulate, or use people because you are angry or unhappy with yourself. Be true to your authentic self.

• When you start to date someone seriously, always listen and trust your inner voice. It is the energy that resonates in your body from your soul.

Personal Responsibility to the “WE”

• Recognize any unhealed emotional wounds and how it affects your ability to be present and conscious in the relationship.

• Know your partners needs and wants. Do everything to take care of them and go out of your way to make sure they are met.
• Do not be selfish. Give of yourself freely without any expectation of getting anything in return. Do not take. Be inspired to give gifts that bring a smile to your partner.

• Learn to communicate. Learn and practice how to be a calm and rational Sender and a patient and non-defensive receiver.

• Find the key to your heart and keep it open. Be empathic, be passionate, be positive, be a partner and most importantly love unconditionally.

These are the personal responsibility rules for you to follow depending on where you are in the Journey from “I-TO-WE”. It is totally up to us to follow so we can find and keep our;