The More You Know about your spouse’s behavior the better you will feel about your relationship. Several easily overlooked signs and behaviors will surface during this holiday.

Here’s just a few:

• A disappearing act around Valentine’s Day.

• An evasive, preoccupied, disinterested, or withdrawn spouse.

• Lack of affection or interest in you.

• Advance planning for meetings that don’t include you on Valentine’s Day.

• Protected cell phone bill or email accounts.

• Frequent computer usage after you gone to bed.

• Locked briefcase that seems to have hidden treasures you must not see.

• Spouse who protects the wallet or purse at all costs.

• When your spouse takes the extra set of car keys from you.

• Suspicious emails you were never intended to see.

• Suspicious purchases your spouse allegedly made.

•Any purchases of flowers, clothing, lingerie, jewelry stores, or specialty shops not given to you.

•Any receipts or charges from restaurants, motels or unexplainable transactions intended to go undetected.

•You discover identical gifts receipts.

•Any unexplained absences during this holiday.

•Any trumped up fights to leave the house resulting in a prolonged absence.

•Any blocked ID phone calls followed by short “quiet” conversations.

•Any calls taken in another room or closet.

• Hang up phone calls Valentine’s morning and a disappearing partner.

Infidelity needs to be proven either to satisfy a “need to know” or as proof in court. Signs of infidelity may indicate an affair however, evidence is vital. Don’t get stuck on the signs – they should only get you focused. You need proof for court. Testimony, video documentation, records, proof of inclination, intent and opportunity are critical. He cautions against “playing detective” when a relationship is at stake. The time is not to become an expert. Use "clear headed” rational thinking, its time to call for reputable professional help.

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