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Article rating : 0.00, 0 votes. Author : Brooke Brimm
As with everything in life, there is a time to experience hurt and
pain. Each one of us will feel these emotions, and when the time comes
it is good to allow them to exist. It is okay. Feel the hurt and pain, it will
teach about your strengths and weaknesses. Don’t be afraid. The day
we came into this world we felt hurt and pain, and yet we have managed
to survive.
Why spend your life fearing and running from these negative
emotions. If you do, you will not fully experience the flip side of this
negativity, which are the feelings of joy and happiness. You will learn to
truly appreciate a blue sky when your skies have been grey and
cloudy.
Every emotion, even an unpleasant one, has a purpose in our lives.
Experiencing unpleasant emotions strengthen our character muscles
and prepare us for greater challenges and blessings in lives. For
example, can you imagine how devastating it would be for an individual
if they were never allowed the opportunities of regrouping from minor
hurts and disappointments in love relationships, and then suddenly had
to endure a great loss such as, divorce or death? Minor hurts,
disappointments, and trials help us to know that happiness can be
restored after loss. If we are constantly avoiding normal hurt and pain in
our day-to-day lives, we may not be able to handle great loss once it
comes. Make no mistake; as long as people are dying and changing,
great loss will come.
If you are avoiding entering a relationship for fear of being hurt,
don’t. As long as we are interacting with any living being, we will be hurt,
it is unavoidable. Conversely, we will be experience a great amount of
joy and contentment when sharing with others.
Allow pain’s purpose to work in your life and in your relationships.
You will find that pain promotes growth through appreciation and
strength through experience. Your relationship will be deeper and
stronger once you have experienced a little hurt and pain. You will look
back and feel proud of the understanding you have developed, and the
value that has been built into your love life.
Keep this in mind: Pain has an expiration date. It is okay to
experience hurt and pain, but recognize that those emotions expire. It is
critical to check the expiration date before the feelings turn sour and
bitter. If you find yourself constantly feeling angry and bitter, and you are
unable to let go of a wrong that was done to you, then the expiration
date on hurt and pain has probably passed. Too many of us women are
living our lives filled with anger and toxicity because someone has
“done us wrong.” We carry a martyr banner of hurt and pain because we
are now single mothers, fooled lovers, or dismissed wives. Life has no
guarantee. You may find that the man you thought was “the one” is now
gone forever. Don’t feel ashamed of being hurt, but don’t wallow in it
until you are bitter.
Brooke Brimm has a Master's degree in Professional Counseling and 8
years of experience in the field of Human Science. She has been
married since 1993 and has two beautiful daughters. Ms. Brimm authors
an ezine, Loves Gumbo, in which she discusses love, relationships, and
friendships in today's society. To join email: lovesgumbo@comcast.net
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