What is the main purpose with your life? Most people would probably say to be happy. When you build self confidence you build up a state of happiness. Therefore the first step in a self esteem improvement process is to do all you can to be happy every day. And how do you do that? You can start with smiling. In every situations you run into during the day, smile. This is just a start and you may need to do happiness exercises every day to become happy and gain self confidence. If you are unhappy try acting as if you were happy. Sooner or later you will become happy and thus build a higher self esteem.

Use your fantasy to visualize yourself as a positive person. Be enthusiastic in your visualization. Give yourself reasons to believe in yourself. Do things that you have never done before which means a real challenge for you. Self esteem is based on your beliefs. The more rocks you are able to face on the road you're walking, the more you will believe in yourself and the more self confident you will become. Do a new and really challenging thing every day, and your confidence will soar.

Each time you start up with something whether it's a new project at work or a repair job at home, always look back and remind yourself of previous successful experiences. When you uncover these memories and really feel the good emotions associated with them, you will simply feel successful and you will act according to that; like a person with high self confidence. You can even say to yourself: "I am self confident" and it will immediately enforce a feeling of self confidence. Just try it, say it out loud and repeat it to yourself. Say it many times a day and when it is not appropriate to say it out load, just think it. When practiced consistently and often, these small simple 'tricks' adds up to your self esteem and will contribute to it's growth day after day.

We all have negative feelings from time to time. Look at these negative thoughts and feelings that inevitably will appear as challenges. Each time you feel a negative vibe, feeling or thought penetrating your mind, start to think of something positive like your previous successful merits - whatever they are - or repeat to yourself "I am self confident". Self confidence is all about levelling yourself above negative feelings, thoughts and miseries. If you follow these words of advice consistently each day, your confidence will grow equally.

Terje Brooks Ellingsen is a writer and internet publisher. He runs the website 1st-Self_Improvement.net. Terje is a Sociologist who enjoys contributing to the personal growth and happiness of others. He tries to accomplish this by writing about self improvement issues from his own experience and knowledge. For example, self esteem improvement and help to achieve happiness in relationships.

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