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Happiness. The pursuit of so many. In fact, we are known in America as those who live for "Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.'
But so many seem without happiness. Why is this? Is happiness truly elusive
or do we simply not know how to take hold of it? It is my contention that
happiness is yours for the taking. That is, anyone can be happy if the
choose to be... and if they know how to get it.
So what does it take to bring us to a state of happiness? Here are a few
thoughts to get you on your way:
Do not try to control circumstances.
One of the biggest "happiness busters"
I see is in the frustration people experience (and wallow in) because
circumstances have gone awry. This is because their mind-set, whether they
know it or not, is that they should be somehow able to control
circumstances. But let's get this straight: You can't! So the first thing
you can do to give yourself happiness is to stop trying to control, or
taking responsibility for circumstances that are outside of your control!
Understand that you can only control yourself.
There is only one thing you
can control in this world and that is yourself. You can't control the
weather, other drivers, your kids or spouse, or anything for that matter
outside of your own beliefs, thoughts, attitudes and actions. Focus all of
your attention on developing yourself and doing what is right - controlling
yourself while letting what will happen, happen - and you will find
happiness opening up within you.
Decide what it is that you want out of life and then stick to it
relentlessly.
This is two parts: First, know what you want. Get real clear
with yourself. Take a private retreat to be alone if you have to, but come
to grips with what you want your life to look like.
Secondly, devote
yourself to that passion and do not be sidetracked. It is interesting to me
how many options we have - good options - that if we pursue them they will
actually crush our happiness because they will take us away from what will
really make us happy.
Live for a legacy. We cannot be self-absorbed and live only for ourselves.
Yes, we only control ourselves, but we can live for the betterment of
others. Live your life in such a way that others are touched and you will
find yourself feeling happiness in ways that you could never imagine. For
example, I get some of the most touching emails from people I have never met
(and probably never will) who tell me how I have helped them. There is
little else that brings me such happiness!
Settle your finances. Whatever your financial goals are, get them! Having
poor finances is one of the major causes of unhappiness. Now, some people
are completely content on $30,000 a year. Others need $200,000 a year. That
is okay. We all have different desires, needs, and goals. But the key is to
know what you want your financial life to look like and then do what it
takes to get there. Among the major things to do is to eliminate as much
debt as possible, if not all!
Surround yourself with good friends. Good friend are such a blessing! I have
some of the most intelligent, capable, successful, and caring friends a
person could have. I have three or four people in my life that I completely
trust and admire. When friendships are clicking, there is almost nothing
that provides more happiness. Take time to develop your friendships. Spend
time with them, do fun things with them etc. Even as life gets more and more
busy, make time with your friends a priority.
Develop your primary love relationship. I spoke at a groom's dinner recently
and one of the points I made was that marriage will show you both heaven and
hell! Marriage, when it is going well will send you out the door each
morning on cloud nine. When it isn't going well, it affects every area of
your life negatively. Do whatever you can - work hard - at developing your
primary love relationship. The rewards of happiness you reap will be
tremendous!
Happiness is yours for the taking - and hope you will take the time to
develop your life in such a way as to be able to experience all of the
happiness you can handle!
About The Author:
Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of
Made for Success, a company helping individuals and organizations turn
their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and
achieve their dreams.
To see Chris "live" at the upcoming Jim Rohn Weekend Event as he speaks on
the subject of Secrets of Influence go to
http://Chris-Widener.InspiresYOU.com/ or call 800-929-0434.
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