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Self Improvement > Happiness > Relationship Advice: Can My Partner Change? 3 Simple Steps to Make It Happen
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Article rating : 0.00, 0 votes. Author : Margrit Harris
Imagine for a moment…
You and your partner living in heavenly bliss…
Your home is in peaceful order with the dishes done, the bathroom fresh and cleaned, your bed made, and the living room picked up.
You feel serene as the two of you relax on the patio enjoying a quiet conversation as your favorite music wafts gently around you.
Life is good, your relationship is good.
Sound idyllic? This can be you, you can be feeling so at ease one with another. And not just every once in a blue moon when the stars line up just right, but 90% of the time.
Difficult for you to believe? Sure, you spend much of you time biting your tongue or lashing out in anger because you wish your partner did this, or you wish your partner did that.
However, contrary to what everybody has told you, your partner can change. And you can be the one to ‘make’ it happen.
- You can get him to stop spending all night watching football.
- You can keep her from spending her whole pay check at the clothing store.
- You can get him more involved in the housework.
- You can keep her from using your electric shaver on her legs.
What do you want your partner to change?
It is possible and not only that it takes only 3 Simple Steps.
I purposefully call them ‘Simple’ because…
- They don’t require that you go and see a marriage counselor.
- They don’t require that you spend tons of money.
- They don’t require that you do delve into the dark crevices of the past.
- They don’t require masses amount of reading or homework.
There are only 3 Steps so you don’t have complex points and ideas to keep track of, only 3 easy to follow steps that bring about significant change.
Change like getting your partner to…
- Pay more attention to you than the TV.
- Pick up her clothes and put them in the laundry hamper.
- Take out the trash when it’s his turn.
- Be more romantic without faking it.
- Come home as promised.
- Remember important events.
- Stay home more and go out with the girls less.
What do you want your partner to change?
But wait, that’s not the place to start, even though we all do.
Step ONE, rekindles the best feelings for each other, we all have them, or had them. This is the place to start, from a place of harmony, positive energy, and love.
Step TWO, gets a little uncomfortable however, because of Step ONE you both realize that to make lemonade you have to squeeze those lemons hard, add sugar and stir to get the desired result.
Step THREE, starts getting exciting as you both see the changes happening and you feel energized and much closer than you probably have in years.
A final secret to making your partner change.
We’ve all worked on replacing a less favorable habit with a more productive one. From as tough a habit as ‘giving up cigarettes’ to as simple as paying attention to saying, “Excuse me” and “Thank you”. It generally is not easy. But here is a little secret.
If you’ll notice the perspective, the former [giving up cigarettes] focuses on what needs to be stopped while the latter [saying “Excuse me” and “Thank you”] on what needs to be added or learned. An important difference!
One of the real secrets to ‘making’ your partner change is to focus on what you want and not on what you don’t want. Let me say that one more time. The real secret to ‘making’ your partner change is to focus on what you want, not on what you don’t want.
You’ll be amazed when you master these three simple steps you too will be lounging peacefully on your patio together enjoying true lasting bliss.
Margrit Harris, is Your Relationship Expert providing you with Helpful Answers to Tough Questions for Life and Business Relationships. Author of the ebook Can [I Make] My Partner Change? and much more relationship advice offering Helpful Answers to Tough Questions. Visit us at http://www.stratateam.com/
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