So often in a consultation, I ask "What do you want?" Sometimes I qualify the question, for example, "What do you want to feel?" Or, "What do you really want?" Or, "What do you want to happen now?" Or, "What do you want to experience in this situation?"

To the answers of such questions, I often consider asking, "So, what are you waiting for?" But instead, I read the energy of the person’s heart’s desires and I listen for the moment to be encouraging about making a change.

In my view, our culture fosters the tendency to live in the future.* So often we feel that certain events must happen or certain conditions must be in place before we can have or feel what we want. Such beliefs keep us living in the future, waiting for something to come to us. We must resonate to what we desire so that we can connect with what we desire.

Here are a few classic and common Waiting for the Future comments: "As soon as I finish college, I’ll……" "If only I were married, I could……" "When my divorce is finalized, I will……" "As soon as I get a new job, I can……" "If only I could win the lottery, I would……"

Most of these sentences are completed with ideas about being happy or doing what the person is longing to do. When the person articulates the idea that is wanted, I say, "Be it now." Or, "Feel it now." Or, "Do it now."

Our culture and most of our religions have adopted the belief that we have to wait to be happy. Or that we have to earn our happiness. Or that certain events or conditions must occur before we can feel free. Our culture glorifies struggle.

We must resonate with what we desire to experience or to become. St. Augustine expressed this concept as: "What we are looking for is what we are looking with." Mahatma Gandhi expressed it this way "We must be the change that we seek in the world." I interpret these to mean that we already possess what we seek and that we must resonate with our desires. If we resonate with the absence of our desires, we create more absence.

If we want happiness, we must be happy now. We must feel our cells smile and see happiness everywhere. If we are looking for a primary relationship, we must be at peace with the Primary relationship with Self. If we want a new job that we believe will be fulfilling, we must experience fulfillment in our present job, if only in a small way.

If we perceive that an event or condition outside ourselves is a prerequisite for our happiness, we disempower ourselves. If we believe that "luck" will come our way, we disempower ourselves. If we believe that inner wisdom is dependent on the outside, we disempower ourselves.

The future never comes. It is a direction, not a destination. What comes is a constant present, an unfolding of the now. We must live now the way we want to be. We must see and embrace what we are becoming. We must embody and resonate with what we want.

So, what are you waiting for? Be it, feel it, do it now!

* Living in the past is also a popular attitude, but that is another article.

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