Self-consciousness defined... excessively conscious of oneself as an object of observation by others.

Self-consciousness is a very dangerous and negative emotion. The victim of self-consciousnesses says to himself:

· “What impression am I making?”

· “Do I look well?”

· “What are they thinking and saying about me?”

· “I am not equal to this,”

· “I lack so many things,”

· “If I had only been born right,”

· “I shall surely fail.”

Now this defense mechanism isn’t necessarily a stumbling block. It is a safeguard against rashness and over-confidence. The evil of extreme self-consciousness is that it makes you do so many things that you do not wish to do. It can change you line of conduct a hundred times a day, makes you say “yes” when you would rather say “no,” and, in short, robs you of you power and individuality.

What is the remedy for this dreaded extreme elf-consciousness?

It is mainly a matter of securing control of your thoughts and intelligently directing them. The mind is a machine, which must be made obedient to the owner's will. When brought under subjection, it will serve your highest and best purposes, but left to itself it - may run easily to confusion and destruction.

Here you may interject, “But my mind wanders.” Then go after it and bring it back. You say you can not? Who is operating your mind? Does it run itself?

What would you think of a train that had no engineer, no conductor, no one to direct it, and was allowed to run anywhere? Yet this is what you permit with your train of ideas. Be sensible. Take hold of yourself seriously. Set your will to work. Straighten your spine. Take time today for mental overhauling. You are about to educate your will - and it is serious business.

Procrastination will not do. From this time forward resolve to control and direct your mental powers for definite purposes.

Constantly hold in your mind a high estimate of yourself, but be sure you have reasons for doing so. It is of little use to say you are well if you are ill. Do not deceive yourself. You are no greater than the sum of your thoughts and habits. You must have good and sufficient reasons for your self confidence.

· Are your impulses of a noble nature?

· Is your ambition lofty?

· Do you high ideals and do you work persistently to realize them?

· Are you doing the best you can?

· Do you have an uncompromising love for truth?

The mind is a prolific field for the growth of all kinds of thought. If false and negative

The remedy for you, and for others so situated, is to patiently root out every obnoxious habit and to substitute strong, healthy, positive thoughts in their place. You must at first be content with small victories, since you have permitted this mental field and garden to be overrun with these objectionable thought habits. But you can comfort yourself with the assurance that in this way you can and will attain success.

Timid people concern themselves too much about what others will think and say. They are constantly studying the impression they are making upon people who probably are not even thinking of them. Their super sensitiveness causes them to imagine themselves being criticized, slighted, and unfairly condemned by those who are probably too absorbed in their own affairs to notice.

You may be on the road to success when a single act of timidity may derail your chances. People lose confidence in you if you lack faith in yourself. Courage is admired, fear never is. Courage is dignified, fear is repulsive. The person of courage is welcomed everywhere, while fear invites itself to a seat in the rear.

Everyone should learn to stand firmly upon their own feet.

“Intellectual intrepidity,” says Samuel Smiles “is one of the vital conditions of independence and self-reliance in character. A person must have the courage to be himself, and not the shadow or the echo of another. He must exercise his own powers, think his own thoughts, and speak his own sentiments. He must elaborate his own opinions, and form his own convictions. It has been said that he who dare not form an opinion must be a coward; he who will not, must be an idler; he who can not, must be a fool.”

Super sensitiveness is a major fault by which you lose initiative, self-reliance, and independence. A self-conscious person must, sooner or later, rid themselves of this fault if they are to be preeminently successful by directing their attention to the power of self confidence.

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