Can you recall numerous television commercials that equate relaxation and self care with relaxing in a quiet bath, filled with plenty of hot water and bubbles? You know, "Calgon, take me away". Or, the couple whose lives were changed by taking a Caribbean cruise.

There’s nothing wrong with these alternatives, as long as they serve as your definition of nurturing practices.

Ask yourself, "What activities am I most passionate about? What pastimes do I get so caught up in that I lose track of time? What hobbies leave me feeling energized about life and more connected to myself?"

Are you at a loss for ideas; perhaps because you can’t get your "to do" list to step aside for a moment? Julia Cameron, author of The Artist’s Way, suggests another kind of list-making:

List five hobbies that sound fun.

List five classes that sound fun.

List five skills that would be fun to have.

List five things that you used to enjoy doing.

List five silly things that you would like to try once.

Jennifer Louden, author of The Comfort Queen’s Guide to Life, recommends that you complete the following sentence fifty times and see what it stirs in you: "I never have time to _____ anymore."

After finishing these exercises you will have new ways to take care of yourself. The thing to remember is that there are no wrong answers here, because it’s completely about what makes you feel more joyful in life.

Another aspect to remember is that there are pastimes called "shadow comforts".

This is a term that Jennifer

Are you asking, "How am I going to add time for self care with everything else that I’m juggling in my life?" That answer will take some time, reflection, and prioritizing on your part. One suggestion might be to negotiate self care time with your spouse or friend. Ask them, "If I take care of the children while you play tennis on Monday night, can you watch them on Wednesday night so I can take a watercolor class?" Or, if you are a single parent, do you have a neighbor that will swap babysitting time? In other words, think of ways to meet both parties’ goals for self nurturing time.

Most importantly, avoid looking at self care as something else to squeeze into an already crowded schedule. I believe that women who take care of themselves lead healthier, more meaningful lives.

What are your favorite self care practices?

Jennifer Snyder is the author of a self discovery workbook, The Time of Your Life: A Creative Sourcebook for Women. The Sourcebook can be ordered at http://www.timeofyourlifeafterdivorce.com

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